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Have you ever had the urge to slip out of your child’s sports event and go do what you want?

Self-described “Bad Hockey Mom” has done just that and joins Marti & Erin for a provocative chat about what it really means to be “mom enough.”


Many of us have been there – driving our children to countless hockey games, dance recitals or swim meets, but longing to sit out a few and focus on our own interests. This week’s guest, writer Karlyn Coleman, has done just that many times, dropping her talented son at his hockey game then slipping away to work on her writing. Before you judge her too harshly as the “bad hockey mom” she claims to be, tune into this thoughtful discussion about how far we need to go in following our child’s passions and when it’s OK to follow our own.


What do you do to support your children’s interests and talents, whether in sports, the arts or other domains? To what extent have you sacrificed your own interest to invest in those of your children?Please share your thoughts in our REPLY space below!

Note: Stay tuned through the end of the show for Relationships that Nurture, a brief monthly feature brought to you by St. David’s Center for Child & Family Development. This month’s segment addresses the importance of your young child’s relationship with caregivers.


For Karlyn’s essay titled Bad Hockey Mom, click here.

For St. David’s Center’s Importance of the Child / Caregiver Relationship tip sheet, click here.

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  1. Jean on December 19, 2011

    I think this is an important topic to discuss. With three kids in various activities throughout the year, I go back and forth as to how to balance them all, and keep my own peace of mind. I don’t enjoy the frequency of driving, scheduling, and figuring out who will drive whom. While providing experiences for my children that will round out their upbringing is important, I wonder about the loss of a routine of regularly being at home, getting homework and chores done, eating a nutritious dinner together, free time, being together, going to bed at a regular time.

    I often regret expressing these thoughts, when so many parents seem to strive to sacrifice even more of their time and energy than I do. While I enjoy the games somewhat, the activities that truly fill me up are not ones I can do while waiting for a game to end. Making time for myself in the evenings can be a real challenge.

  2. Jane Porterfield on December 21, 2011

    Regrettably, my youngest son is now 18 and in college. I’ve been a hockey mom, a soccer mom, a baseball mom and a basketball mom (the youngest is 6 ft 5).

    Over the years, as chaotic and hectic as schedules could get, I truly enjoyed attending all of their games. Our nutrition did suffer and we ate quite a bit of rink food, but I don’t begrudge a moment of the time I spent supporting the boys in their sporting activities.

    It was a nice distraction from the rest of the “stuff” that I had on my mind, and to me, it was like the kids were my little ‘heroes’ out there, doing their best. I even hated to go to the washroom, for fear I’d miss a great play or a goal being scored.

    I was always their biggest fan and supporter and really miss watching them out there, enjoying whatever sport it was. The driving and the hurrying were stressful, but I was always ‘in the zone’ when the games started.