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Do you struggle with how to set clear limits for your children and still give them opportunities to make good decisions for themselves?

Then you won’t want to miss this week’s Mom Enough show!


So many power struggles can be avoided when children have an opportunity to choose for themselves or to have a voice in family decisions. But how do you know when it’s time to negotiate with a child and when it’s time to just lay down the law? This week’s guest, parent educator Dr. Ada Alden, has developed a “Red, Yellow, Green” framework to help you sort that out. And she offers some great tips for how family meetings can strengthen your family’s relationships and help you “work yourself out of a job” – the overall goal in parenting, right? (Erin is excited to begin family meetings in her household and you will be too!)


How could family meetings add to the quality of your family life and to your children’s development of wise decision-making? Please share your thoughts in our REPLY space!


For Ada’s web site on Purposeful Parenting, click here.

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  1. Mili on June 27, 2012

    I love the ideas and recommendation discussed here, however I have a question more than a comment.
    How would you implement this in a house where your spouse in not really “into” these kind of things. Can I implement it only between myself and my child? How could I show my spouse this matter is really important and necessary to implement for the sake of our family?Please provide advise if possible.

  2. Stacy on June 27, 2012

    Ada said she would be happy to respond, Mili, but she needs more specific information. How old is your child? What sort of things is the husband not interested in? What things is the husband interested in?

    Here is what else Ada told Mom Enough:
    Depending on the age of the children, early and challenging conversations between parents provide a training ground for the adolescent years. Children thrive in a home where parents provide like parent hat messages. Granted mother and father can be and do different things; however, as parents, a same and consistent message provides emotional scaffolding as children focus on their growth and development. Different messages from parents lead to children behaving based on who is in the room. This does not develop an inner compass of judgment or self-competency. It does develop awareness that behavior is based on who is present. Many drivers on the expressway are always in the speed limit when the state patrol is present. Once the patrol takes an exit ramp, safe and speed limit aware driving disappears.