Are You Mom Enough™?
In response to the cover story in the May 21 issue of Time magazine (“Are you mom enough?”), we felt compelled to speak out on what it means to be Mom Enough™. The Time article focuses on four mothers who follow the practice of so-called “Attachment Parenting.” This is a topic we have written and spoken on for years, drawing on decades of rigorous research on how secure attachment develops between parent and child and how the quality of attachment influences the child’s life-long development. It’s important for mothers to know they do not have to follow specific parenting styles often adopted and promoted by advocates of “attachment parenting” (e.g. co-sleeping or prolonged breastfeeding) in order to build a secure attachment with their child — in other words, in order to be “mom enough.” Yes, sensitive responding to baby’s cues, reliable comfort at times of distress and non-forceful approaches to discipline as the child gets older are very important to the formation of optimal parent-child relationships and to healthy child development. But as many studies have demonstrated, secure attachments can develop whether or not mom works outside the home, co-sleeps with the baby or feeds by breast or bottle. Parents need reassurance that there are many ways to be “mom enough” and “dad enough” (yes, dads count too!) as long as the child experiences the essentials of love, sensitive care and emotional security.
For evidence-based information on what it means to be mom enough and what it takes to develop a secure attachment with your child, please see the following resources on our website:
Watch KARE Today tomorrow, Friday, May 11, 11AM to noon, to see Marti discuss this important issue!
If you wish to interview Marti or Erin, please contact our Director of Marketing and Communications, Stacy Downs, email@example.com.